I’ve always been fascinated by what draws people together in the early stages of dating and attraction.
After years of observation and countless conversations with friends, both male and female, I’ve noticed some common themes that seem to make women take a second glance at a guy.
While we all appreciate different qualities in our partners, time and again, I’ve seen that certain traits tend to give men an edge.
Some are innate, while others can be cultivated.
I want to share 13 traits that research shows many women find appealing in guys, along with some tips to enhance those qualities in yourself so you can boost your chances of attraction and connection the next time you are interested in someone special.
Are you ready to up your manly charm?
Let’s dive in.
#1. Having Ambition
Too many men have no goals for their life.
So when a woman meets a man with a plan in life, she finds him attractive.
This isn’t to say you need to follow through on your plan.
Life happens, priorities and goals change over time.
But by having ambition for what you want in life, women will find you irresistible.
#2. Helping Others Without Incentive
Helping others can be rewarding.
Whether it’s a neighbor, someone you meet while volunteering, or even someone you come across on the street, helping out others can have a major impact on their lives and yours.
But not everyone is necessarily out there to help others for the sake of it.
Some men will help others only when they know that they’re going to get something out of it or when they keep score so that they can ask for something in return later.
Obviously, that’s not a good look, even when you are doing something nice.
Women respect men who go out of their way to help others, especially when they’re not expecting to receive anything from doing a good deed.
#3. The Ability to be Vulnerable
At a young age, men learn that vulnerability is a bad thing.
They believe that men shouldn’t be emotional and that any sign of emotion is a sign of weakness.
This often leads to pent-up anger and aggression alongside unresolved issues.
Women respect men who are not only able to challenge this belief but to do something about it and get counseling.
Women also respect when men can open up about things, successfully communicate with others, and talk about things that might make them uncomfortable.
#4. Taking Responsibility in Life
Taking responsibility is an essential life skill, but not one that every man necessarily develops.
Many women automatically respect a man who can take responsibility for their actions, apologize, and do what is necessary to rectify the situation.
Of course, that’s not the only type of responsibility women respect.
Women also respect when a man is responsible enough to follow through on his commitments.
Knowing when to say you’re wrong and doing what you’re saying you’re going to do is always respect-worthy.
#5. Practicing Humility
Pride and arrogance are rarely good qualities.
Unfortunately, we live in a society that often instructs men to act like they’re the best, to pursue perfection, and to fake it until they make it.
As a result, there are a lot of men out there that will attempt to assert dominance over others.
Women respect men who can be humble, admit they don’t know everything, and accept that they’re always learning.
#6. Having Emotionally Intelligence
There’s no doubt about it, emotional intelligence is an attractive trait.
Regarding men, displaying this quality can make all the difference in how women perceive them.
This is because women are typically more in tune with their emotions and appreciate a partner who can also express and understand their own emotions.
Men who display emotional intelligence come across as confident, self-aware, and trustworthy, all highly valued qualities in any relationship.
By communicating their feelings effectively, men with emotional intelligence build a stronger bond with their partners and create an environment of mutual respect and understanding.
#7. Calling Out People When They’re Acting Terribly
Accountability is essential.
When you’re around others, holding them accountable for what they say and do is essential to ensure they’re learning and that you’re around the right people.
Some men will keep friends that do bad things and are never confronted about it.
No matter who is saying or doing something wrong, women respect a man who speaks up and says something about it.
#8. They Respect Boundaries
A lot of people don’t know that no means no.
Sometimes, this minor irk immediately makes a woman avoid a man.
In other cases, it’s a symptom of a more significant problem that makes them potentially dangerous.
While it’s basic human decency, many women respect men who know how to respect boundaries and avoid doing something that upsets them and others.
#9. Stepping in When It’s Not Expected
This is very specific, but it’s an example that many find admirable.
Single moms raising kids alone take a chance when they enter the dating pool.
There’s no chance that there will be a man who wants a kid or is looking to get involved to that degree.
But while there are always men who aren’t looking for such a relationship, there’s the rare man who does get into a relationship with moms and steps up to become a caregiver and a good role model for that child (or children).
When men can step up even when it’s not expected of them, or the situation seems overwhelming, this is something that certainly commands respect from women.
#10. Doing the Right Thing, Even When No One’s Watching
As with helping others, some men only do the right thing when they know others are watching them.
If no one is there to see them and reward them (or, in the case of bad behavior, hold them accountable), they’ll do something else or make the wrong choice.
A man that women can respect lives by his moral compass and does what is right regardless of who might be watching.
#11. They’re Consistent About Things They Should Be Doing
Consistency is critical to leading a good life.
Inconsistency can hold you back, making it harder to reach your goals and make your vision for life happen.
While things can always get in our way, women respect men who put in the time to be consistent and constantly work towards what they want in life, especially when it comes to doing what they have to do but might not necessarily want to do.
#12. Treating Animals Properly
How men treat animals can often be a major indicator of who they are as a person.
There’s nothing wrong with disliking a particular animal or preferring a certain type.
That said, that’s not always how men approach animals.
Some will state how much they hate certain animals, mistreat them by hitting them or verbally abusing them, and engage in behaviors that are major red flags.
If a man can treat all animals correctly and with care and love regardless of how they feel about animals, that’s always a good sign that they’re decent.
#13. When They Treat Women They’re Not Attracted to Respectfully
Some men only treat others properly when they want something, and it shows.
Many women respect and appreciate it when a man is respectful to other women, even when he’s not attracted to them.
This shows that he treats everyone fairly and is kind rather than trying to get attention or something else from his interaction.
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Jon Dulin is the passionate leader of Unfinished Success, a personal development website that inspires people to take control of their own lives and reach their full potential. His commitment to helping others achieve greatness shines through in everything he does. He’s an unstoppable force with lots of wisdom, creativity, and enthusiasm – all focused on helping others build a better future. Jon enjoys writing articles about productivity, goal setting, self-development, and mindset. He also uses quotes and affirmations to help motivate and inspire himself. You can learn more about him on his About page.