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One of the biggest things that can hold us back in life is worrying.
It is a completely normal emotion to feel, but it can also get in the way of us achieving our goals or completing a task that we have set for ourselves.
Often, worry can be extremely limiting if we let it be, and it can take over and control our lives.
We don’t always realize that our lives are being controlled by worrying about the unknown, and it isn’t always a healthy approach.
We are naturally hardwired to worry about everything and some of these things we might not even need to worry about.
You might think that there is nothing that you can do about these worries, but actually, there is.
It is important to try to take back control of the things that you have let slip away due to worrying about them.
In this article, we are going to explain all the ways in which you can be worry free.
10 Tips To Be Worry Free
#1. Realize Worry Is Bad
The first thing you have to do is realize that worrying is bad.
Not just for your mental health, but also your physical health too.
It can make you not do things you typically enjoy doing or see people you love.
As a result, you experience more stress in your life, which isn’t good.
And the more stress you have, the greater the possibility of high blood pressure, weight gain, and other complications.
So if you are someone that thinks worry is good, realize that it is very harmful to you.
#2. Learn The Source Of Worry
Most people don’t worry about everything in life, just certain things.
Usually this worry comes from a traumatic event from their past.
For example, they might be scared to drive because they were in a horrible accident years ago.
It’s important that you take the time to understand where your worry is coming from.
What past events in your life led to it?
Was there one event or was it a series of events?
Once you know the source of your worry, you can concentrate on dealing with that trauma.
Eventually as you heal from those past events, you should be able to enjoy a more worry free life.
#3. Understand Thoughts Become Things
Thoughts become things.
If we stay positive and think positive thoughts, then positive things will happen to us.
Conversely, if we think negative thoughts, then negative things will happen to us.
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Worrying is a form of negative thinking.
If you ever catch yourself worrying about things, you are reinforcing negative thoughts and a negative attitude.
For example, there is the story of a man that was locked in the back of a refrigerated truck.
He banged on the door, trying to get someone’s attention to let him out.
Unfortunately, no one heard him.
He knew that he wouldn’t survive the night in the cold, but he tried.
He curled up in a ball trying to stay warm, but all he did was focus on the cold.
He pulled out a pencil and a piece of paper and wrote how cold he was.
By the time morning came and workers found him, he was frozen to death.
The catch though is that the refrigeration module on the truck was broken.
The temperature never went below 70 degrees.
But he thought that it was freezing and ended up passing away from the cold. His negative thinking led to his demise.
The point of the story is when we worry about things, we help spur those things into becoming a reality.
Using the earlier example about being scared to drive, you might be so consumed with keeping a slow speed, checking your mirrors, and making sure your seat belt is on that you take your eyes off the road and end up in another accident.
The sooner you can work on changing your thoughts to positive, the better off you will be.
#4. Live In The Present
In order to be worry free, you have to live in the present.
Most of our worry comes from a past event and then we project that worry out into future events.
And you can’t live your life to the fullest if you are always focused on the past or future.
Take the time to learn to be present and appreciate the little things in life.
And the more present you are, the more you can take action so that you don’t need to worry about the future.
#5. Focus On What You Have
Related to the point above about living in the present, when you focus on the things you have, you make living now easier.
So take a few minutes and sit down and think of all the good things you have in your life.
Be appreciative of these things.
By doing this, you will force yourself to focus on the now and not the future.
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For example, if you are a parent and you worry about your child leaving and going off to college one day, start to focus on the now.
Enjoy and relish the time you have.
If you spend all your time worrying about life when they have left the house, you miss out on creating life long memories, not just for you, but for them as well.
Then when they do move out, you will be saddened that you didn’t take the opportunity to enjoy their presence when you could.
#6. Make A To-Do List
Making a list of all of the things that you want to do or achieve is one of the best ways to remind yourself of what you want to get done.
These could be simple things like daily tasks, or they could be bigger and more complex.
For example, things like personal goals that you want to achieve to better yourself, or something that you have wanted to say to another person that you have been worried to say.
Making a list also ensures that you won’t let yourself miss an opportunity.
If you put something off for long enough because you are worried about the outcome, eventually you will forget about it, and the opportunity will be lost forever.
Most times, these situations aren’t as worrying as we have made them out to be in our heads, and having a list can help motivate you to take control and get it done.
The ability to cross something off from your list is a huge achievement, and it can also feel really rewarding to be able to do so.
It will allow you to work through your list slowly, one at a time, at a pace that you feel comfortable with.
Having multiple things to do at once can be overwhelming and add to the overall stress of worrying about them.
You might even find that crossing a single achievement off of your list can motivate you to move on to the next task.
You should be proud of what you have accomplished, no matter how big or small the task may have been.
#7. Don’t Let Other People Influence Your Decisions
The people around you will usually put their two cents in when it comes to your problems.
And while you can listen to their advice to help you make good decisions, try not to let negative opinions stop you from doing something that you want to do.
People can be opinionated and judgmental, and when it comes to making a decision, your opinion is what matters the most.
Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do anything.
Try to surround yourself with positive and supportive people that care about you and want the best for you.
If you are lucky enough to have supportive people around you, don’t be afraid to ask them for help when you need it.
Sometimes, talking about the problem that you are worried about can help you to solve it.
Even just having someone to talk to about your worries can sometimes help to relieve them.
Asking for help is a strength and not a weakness, and you might be surprised at how helpful it can be.
Having someone there who can reassure you that you are doing the right thing can be a positive experience that can lessen the stress that you are putting yourself under.
If you don’t feel that you have someone to talk to, you can speak to a professional that will always be willing to listen and help you in any way that they can.
#8. Try Meditation Or Journaling
While we can’t say that meditation is going to work for everyone, we can say that it does have positive results among those that it does work.
It might be worth trying it out to see if it does benefit your situation.
It can help to reduce anxiety and stress levels, and it can also help you to sort through your emotions and figure out how you really feel about something.
Meditation can also provide you with the opportunity to stop, relax, and put your thoughts in order.
For those who don’t get on with meditation, you could even try journaling.
Take some time out of your day to sit in a quiet space with a pen and a notebook and write about your situation.
This could be writing about how you feel, what you are thinking at that moment in time, a reflection of your day, or even a plan on how to solve your problems.
Maybe it is time to listen to yourself and how you really think and feel about an issue to help resolve it.
In the busy lives that we lead, it isn’t often that we stop for a second to process our thoughts and emotions, and taking the time to do so can really help.
#9. Practice Gratitude
Another great trick to worry less is to be grateful for what you have.
Every day, make it a point to recognize something good that happened in your life that day.
As this becomes easier for you, work to find the good in every situation, especially the bad ones.
This will be challenging at first.
But as you practice, you will be able to find the good in every situation.
And by doing this, you shift your focus away from worry and more into being happy with life.
#10. Be Patient And Take Your Time
Becoming worry-free is not an overnight process, and it is going to take some time.
You will need to try and be patient with yourself and take things at your own pace in order to eventually get to a healthy and happy place in your life.
Unfortunately, there is no quick-fix, and it is going to take some time and effort for you to figure things out.
However, if you really try to make a difference, you are going to see positive results.
This might not be right away, but it will happen if you persevere.
Practicing self-love and care is one of the best ways to take care of yourself and start your journey of becoming worry free.
It is going to take some time to learn to worry less, but it will be worth your time.
Try to take some time to process your own thoughts and emotions through a method that works best for you, and really try to look at yourself.
Everyone is different and copes with situations differently, and comparing yourself to others can negatively impact your progress, so really try to focus on yourself.
But most importantly, just breathe. Everything is going to be okay.
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