Modern Love: 12 Wedding Traditions That Need a Fresh Update


We’ve all heard some version of the phrase ‘something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue,’ but what if we could rewrite the age-old wedding traditions to make them more meaningful?

For many couples, their wedding day is a unique reflection of themselves as individuals and also representative of their union together.

It can be difficult to incorporate both of those dynamics into the traditional customs that come with a marriage ceremony, so why not try changing up those timeworn practices for something that’s more modern and reflective?

There are plenty of ways to give your love story just the right touch without compromising on any festive vibes or guest experience.

Here are 12 wedding traditions capable of being given a fresh update!

#1. Inviting Everyone You Know

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Why is there a need to invite every single person you’ve ever met to your wedding?

A wedding isn’t the biggest party of the year.

It’s a special moment in your life that you want to share with those who matter most to you.

So who cares if your best friend from first grade who you only talk with every few years doesn’t come?

#2. Not Inviting People You Are Upset With

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Another issue that many are guilty of is holding grudges and not inviting people they are unhappy with.

So what if Aunt Edna said something rude to your partner when she first met them.

It’s time to act like an adult and invite those important people in your life.

#3. Bouquet Toss

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The bouquet toss has been a longstanding tradition at weddings for years, but it’s time to retire this tradition. 

It reinforces old stereotypes that women need to get married and have children to be fulfilled, and it can also put unnecessary pressure on some guests who may not want to participate. 

The competition to catch the bouquet can also get quite intense, leading to potential accidents or injuries.

#4. Going Into Debt

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Weddings are supposed to be a magical experience, but the rising trend of going into debt for them is far from enchanting. 

With the average cost of a wedding in the United States reaching over $30,000, couples feel pressured to impress their guests with lavish venues, designer dresses, and extravagant catering. 

But is it necessary to start a new chapter in life with a pile of debt? 

From delayed home purchases to compromised retirement plans, the financial consequences of taking out loans or maxing out credit cards for a wedding can be significant. 

In the end, couples need to remember that the true value of a wedding lies in the love and commitment shared between two people, not in the flashy details that can often be forgotten. 

#5. Expecting Others To Go Into Debt

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Another money issue regarding weddings is the bride and groom expecting others to go into debt.

This could be in the form of lavish bachelor or bachelorette parties in other cities or ones that last a few days.

Or it could be destination weddings where you need to purchase plane tickets and book expensive resort rooms if you want to attend.

The wedding couple needs to sit down and think about other’s finances, not just their own.

#6. Smashing Cake in Each Other’s Face

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While smashing cake in each other’s faces at weddings might seem fun and harmless, it’s past its time.

While some may find it amusing or playful, it is an unnecessary and disrespectful tradition that can cause unnecessary fights and wedding stress.

Instead, let’s make our wedding a highlight of love and unity without disrespecting one another.

#7. Bride Being Given Away

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It’s a common tradition for the bride to be walked down the aisle by her father and “given away” to her future husband.

Many people have raised objections to the patriarchal undertones of this tradition, arguing that it reinforces the idea that a bride is something to be possessed and transferred from one man to another.

Furthermore, in modern society, where most women are independent and capable of making their own decisions, the idea of being “given away” seems outdated and unnecessary.

It’s time to let go of old traditions that no longer have a place in our society and embrace a more inclusive and equal approach to marriage.

#8. Brides Controlling the Wedding

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It’s no secret that planning a wedding can be stressful.

With so many details to consider, it’s understandable that many brides want to be in control and ensure everything goes as planned.

However, there’s a growing trend of brides taking their need for control to the extreme, leaving little room for input from anyone else involved in the planning process.

This behavior can lead to a negative experience for all involved, including the bride.

It’s time to recognize that a wedding isn’t just about the bride, but a celebration of love between two people.

#9. Garter Toss

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The garter toss tradition has been a staple at weddings for decades, but it’s time for this outdated custom to end.

The thought of a groom sticking his head up his new wife’s dress in front of all their friends and family is cringeworthy.

Not to mention the fact that this tradition perpetuates the sexist notion that women are objects to be claimed and fought over.

#10. Bachelor and Bachelorette Parties Last Night Of Freedom

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Bachelor and bachelorette parties are known for being the ultimate celebration before tying the knot, but why is it called the “last night of freedom”? 

This phrase implies that marriage is a prison and the bride or groom-to-be will lose something in becoming a wife or husband. 

It’s important for us to shift this mindset and view these parties as a celebration of love and commitment rather than a mourning of supposed lost freedom.

#11. Tied Down Ball And Chain

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For years, we’ve heard the phrase “tied down to the old ball and chain” to describe being in a committed relationship. 

While it may seem harmless, this phrase perpetuates negative stereotypes about marriage and relationships. 

It suggests that a committed relationship is a burden and that one partner is dragging the other down. 

Not only is this untrue, but it also damages the idea of healthy relationships.

#12. Cost Increase Because it’s a Wedding

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Why does the price triple when you mention the word “wedding” to a caterer or venue?

While it makes sense these businesses want to make money, they are taking advantage of people because they know the couple only have a few options. 

It’s time for these businesses to realize that inflating prices hurts the couple long term, especially if they go into debt to afford such services.

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