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Whether this is a break-up, a toxic friend, or simply someone that has disappeared from your life, it is hard to stop caring.
Once you have formed a relationship with and some level of emotional dependence on an individual, it can be hard to accept that you don’t have that anymore.
There are many ways that you can stop caring about someone, and this article will run you through a few easy steps to take.
If you are really struggling and feel like you need more help, please do not hesitate to seek professional intervention.
Good mental health is critical to being happy in life, so don’t by shy about getting the help you need.
There are many licensed counselors and therapists who would be happy to help you work through your issues.
11 Tips To Help You Stop Caring About Someone
#1. Realize Your Self Worth
This is a great way to stop caring about someone.
After someone has left your life, it is normal to feel inadequate and unlovable.
In fact, the average person has the same feelings of hurt from physical pain as they do from a broken heart.
Boost your confidence through words of self affirmation and focus on surrounding yourself with people that make you happy.
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#2. Follow Your Heart
To heal your broken heart, you need to let go of a lot of emotional baggage and do things that make you happy and feel rewarded.
Do not get caught in the trap of living your life for others as this will never fulfill you.
The first step to self improvement is to ensure you feel confident in your decisions.
To make this easier, make a list of the things you love to do and things you want to do and focus on these things and living life.
I have personal experience with this.
When a romantic relationship ended, I had low self-esteem and was doing a lot things for other people’s approval.
Because I was focused on what they wanted and not what I wanted, I had a hard time moving forward.
When I started listening to my own heart, I found inner peace and was able to move on.
#3. Realize That What Others Think Is Not Important
The most important opinion in the world is your own.
Do not allow the opinions of others to dictate your life and happiness.
Many times this is easier said than done.
But you need to work at this as trying to live your life based on others opinions is a recipe for disaster.
Take the time to understand your core values and what you think.
Then live your life based on this.
#4. Accept The Fact They Do Not Care About You
This is the bitter truth, but it’s an important step in the healing process.
The sooner you come to terms with that, the better.
Whatever relationship you used to have with them has gone, and it is unlikely to come back.
Don’t keep fighting to win them back once it is clear this will not happen.
As hard as it is, try not to beg for them back.
Protect your dignity and allow them the space to move on.
In time, you too will feel better for this.
#5. Feel Your Feelings
The biggest issue people face is they try to not feel.
Don’t try to repress the way you are feeling.
Remember that it is OK to have negative feelings.
Instead of putting on a brave face and acting unaffected, allow yourself time and space to experience your true feelings.
In the short term, this will hurt more, but it will allow you to heal healthily and move forward past this individual.
Plus it will allow you to have healthy relationships in the future.
Too many times we never go through the process of hurting and this leads to a toxic relationship and more heartbreak in the future.
And something that is important to remember, even after you work through your feelings, from time to time you will have negative feelings again.
This is a normal part of life, so don’t beat yourself up about it.
#6. Let Go Of The Past
Try to reach a state of mental clarity.
You do not need to regret the past, or indeed to cling to it.
Try not to idolize your past experiences, as humans have a tendency to look back with rose-tinted goggles.
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Instead, try and think of your past with that person as an act of personal development that has shaped you into who you are today.
Be thankful that you had good times, but also remember that not everything was perfect and that there was a reason you grew apart.
Letting go is a key step to moving on.
#7. Practice Mindfulness Or Meditation
A good way to try and break out of a cycle of negative emotions is to become more mindful in your life.
Exercise such as yoga or pilates focuses on deep breathing and mindfulness practices combined with gentle physical activity.
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You do not have to do yoga or meditate to be more mindful, this could simply be writing a journal in the morning or taking a walk with your thoughts.
Mindfulness is a great way to improve your positivity and mental clarity, and it is definitely worth trying to see if it helps.
#8. Cut All Ties
Stop messaging, stop calling them, remove them from your social media.
It is hard to stop caring about someone when you are constantly being reminded of them.
It will seem hard at first, but a good place to start is by removing them on social media.
This means that you will not have to see what they are up to and will not be caught in the trap of comparing yourself and your life to them and theirs.
Everyone moves at different rates and deals with emotions differently, so there is no benefit to comparing yourself to them.
Once they have made it clear that they don’t care about you, or aren’t interested in you, stop wasting your time.
You will only set yourself up to be hurt in this way, and it is important to respect other people’s boundaries.
Delete their number so you have less temptation to contact them.
When you are tempted to reach out to them or stalk them online, instead choose to reach out to a good friend and work on building a stronger, healthy relationship with them.
#9. Stop Thinking About The What Ifs
You cannot change the past and there are reasons for everything that happens.
Do not allow yourself to get caught up in the ‘what if’s of a situation.
You will never be able to know for sure what would have happened, as life did not go that way.
Don’t let yourself waste your life by becoming obsessed with the potential alternate outcomes of a situation.
Use your energy productively and focus on working to improve your current situation.
This is a much more constructive use of your time and will help you to feel better.
Ask happy people why they are happy all the time and they will all say they are living in the present, not in the past.
Learn to live your personal life in the now too and you will be surprised at how much better life is.
#10. Make A Life Change
Sometimes the best way to cope with a difficult time is to make a change in your own life, to regain a sense of control.
This could be something small like rearranging your bedroom, or you could change your hairstyle.
Some people swear by changing their environment instead.
Go for a short vacation or apply to volunteer and help others.
Think about things in your life that don’t completely satisfy you, and work towards changing that.
#11. Seek Out New Hobbies
Are there things you’ve always wanted to try but never did?
Now is a great time to try out a new hobby.
Maybe you want to play a new sport or take up gardening.
Whatever it is, stepping outside your comfort zone will not only help you to grow and be a better person, but it will get your mind off your previous relationship.
And who knows, the things you gain from your new pursuits may lead to good qualities that a future partner is looking for!
#12. Improve Yourself
Related to the above, try to take stock of your life.
What areas can you improve? What bad things are you guilty of?
Are there some bad habits you want to break?
Replace them with new habits that better your life.
Start setting some goals for yourself and try to achieve them.
The more work you do working and improving yourself, the faster you will get over your heartbreak.
#13. Focus On What You Do Have
A simple but often overlooked way to improve your mood and outlook is to focus on the great things you have.
I’m not necessarily talking about material things here either.
A loving family and close friends are things not everyone has.
What about your health or a stable job?
The more things you can be grateful for, the better off you will be.
#14. Spend Time With Important People
The best way to get over hardships is to surround yourself with supportive people.
In fact, the best thing you can do is spending time with friends.
Fill your time by doing fun and fulfilling activities with people that uplift you and make you happy.
Eventually, these people will fill the hole left by whoever upset you.
During this process if you notice any negative friends, like people who complain or want to keep talking about your past relationship, you need to cut ties with them.
This is never easy, and especially now with what you are going through, but you cannot afford to have this negative energy in your life.
#15. Be Patient
Many times people make the mistake of not letting their heart heal completely.
They jump right into another relationship, called a rebound relationship.
In the moment, it feels good.
You are loved and in love, and are making good memories.
Plus you don’t have to deal with the hurt.
But the reality is, most of these relationships fail because your heart isn’t fully in it.
Instead, be patient when it comes to a new relationship.
Give yourself time to get over the person and fully move on before committing to someone new.
Final Thoughts
At the end of the day, it is hard to learn how to stop caring about someone.
We naturally want to keep the connection and feelings we developed with them.
But when relationships end, we need to move on.
Learning how to do this is part of life and you will be healthier and happier by doing so.
Always remember that time is the greatest healer of all wounds.
In the meantime, use these tips to help you with the daily struggle.
Jon Dulin is the passionate leader of Unfinished Success, a personal development website that inspires people to take control of their own lives and reach their full potential. His commitment to helping others achieve greatness shines through in everything he does. He’s an unstoppable force with lots of wisdom, creativity, and enthusiasm – all focused on helping others build a better future. Jon enjoys writing articles about productivity, goal setting, self-development, and mindset. He also uses quotes and affirmations to help motivate and inspire himself. You can learn more about him on his About page.