THIS POST MAY CONTAIN AFFILIATE LINKS. PLEASE SEE MY DISCLOSURES FOR MORE INFORMATION
Some couples are perfect matches, and we naturally comment on how well they go together and seem perfect.
However, there are also couples where we don’t know how they got together, especially when one of the individuals is completely out of the other’s league.
On an online forum, one person wanted to know what the person did to end up with a person out of their league. Here is what people said.
Honesty is high on the list for finding a partner, regardless of looks.
And sadly, it isn’t as easy to find good, honest people in the world today.
So if you are genuine and honest, you have a shot at meeting some great people.
Many people rank a sense of humor at the top regarding qualities in a partner. So it’s no surprise that this was a popular answer.
We all need someone who can cheer us up when we feel down or make us laugh so hard our face turns red.
As one person said, “Came here to say if you’re not rich, or hot, you have to be funny.”
#3. Doing All the Right Things in a Relationship
It’s hard to find someone who checks all the boxes in a relationship, so when you find one, you hold on to them.
“I’ll give my perspective from the other side. My boyfriend isn’t classically handsome. His hairline is receding, and the man is a bean pole and somewhat effeminate, exactly who the Andrew Tate types claim will never get a woman. But I’m obsessed with him, and I’m so glad and proud he’s mine. Why is that?
He listens when I talk. He cleans up after himself. He’s funny and insightful and, above all, kind. He cooks. He’s the most gentle man I’ve ever met, and because of that, I don’t feel the fear I’ve felt around most men in my life. My cats love him. He apologizes when he’s wrong, and I feel secure enough to admit when I’m wrong too. We discuss every problem as us vs. the problem instead of him vs. me. He gives me space when I need it and attention when I need it too. We respect each other.”
#4. Getting Together Before You Lose Some of Your Looks
We all age differently. Some of us, unfortunately, lose our good looks as time passes.
Because of this, one person said, “By being hot when I was younger. I’ve just aged horribly while my wife has aged like fine wine.”
Another person added, “This was my strategy. I had glorious hair when I was a teenager. So I locked down my wife before I went fully bald. Oh, and playing guitar helps a lot.”
#5. Confidence and Charisma
If you talk to enough people, confidence is one key trait attractive to both sexes.
But there is a fine line between confident and arrogant people.
One person said, “My friend is a short, overweight, dwarven looking man and has a really hot girlfriend. It’s all charisma.”
Another added, “I used to run with a guy like that too. He was maybe 5’6″ and over 200 lbs. So short and pudgy. He made OK money, but he certainly wasn’t rich. Yet he was always with someone that you’d consider to be way out of his league. How did he manage it? I figure he had two things going for him.
The guy is genuinely funny. If you’re hanging around with this guy, he will keep you laughing non-stop. Confidence. He’ll talk to anyone. And if you shoot him down, he’ll just chat up your friend without missing a beat.”
#6. Taking the Shot
One reason that many attractive women are with less attractive men is because of fewer options.
Many women have said that they find it hard to date because many men are intimidated by their good looks, thinking he doesn’t stand a chance.
So to protect themselves from rejection, they don’t ask the women out.
One person said, “To be honest, very attractive women sometimes get less attention than you’d think, because guys think they’re out of their league or something. So the first step to dating anyone is actually putting yourself out there and asking. Nothing foolproof, but you’d be surprised at the results sometimes, since lots of guys self-select out of being a contender because they don’t think they have a shot.”
Another person added, “I can honestly say I have objectively the most attractive wife of my friend group. I was also the one who had no fear at all of rejection.
Another person shared their experience, saying, “When I was much younger, I missed out on a few relationships with very attractive women, who were clearly interested, because I didn’t believe they could actually be interested in me. Like sometimes actively, physically pulling away from advances thinking ‘this can’t be right’, and later learning yeah they actually were serious and interested. I actually felt kind of bad for potentially making them feel rejected due to my own stupidity and lack of self-confidence.”
#7. Looking Beyond Beauty
Most people agree you shouldn’t date a person only because of looks.
For the relationship to last, there needs to be a deeper connection.
As one person said, “It’s a start to not come off like you’re overly concerned about the hotness of your girl. This is a sign of deep immaturity, insecurity, and self-centeredness. If that is what you really care about, it’s about making yourself look good through them. It’s a sign that you aren’t really interested in them but how they look and, by extension, how you look. It’s also a pretty good indication that when their beauty ultimately fades, you’ll be looking elsewhere.
That’s what NOT to do. What you should do is treat them like a human being. It’s very obvious when you get all nervous around them. Focus on what you bring to the table and if it’s not much, maybe you should focus on improving that. Beautiful women have a lot of options. Why should they pick you?
But then, if what you are going for is a girl that herself only brings her hotness to the table, my advice is to run away. There are beautiful women who are educated, not an emotional mess, independent, have a strong work ethic and don’t view themselves as superior. A woman that only has looks, like an influencer type, is a big yikes.”
#8. Because They Can’t See Well
A humorous and popular response came from one person, saying, “I believe my wife is damn near blind.”
Another person added, “Wow, this never really occurred to me. But the best relationship I’ve ever had was with a gal who was just shy of being legally blind. I never really thought that much about it. Pretty much been single ever since then.”
Finally, another person said, “When I met my boyfriend I didn’t have the right prescription glasses so I was kinda blind. I told him that and a few months later he took me to a doctor. While I was in there, he told the doctor ‘well damn now she can see clearly she will realize how ugly I am haha’. He is the hottest man alive to me.”
#9. Good With Pets
Many people said that their significant other is great with their pets.
This is especially true with cats. While men might not be the biggest fans of felines, if you can get along with and accept them, you increase your odds in a relationship.
As one person said, “My cats love him. That’s pretty high up on the list to be honest.”
#10. Meet Their Needs Under The Covers
Many men think that women get the same pleasure as men do when they are intimate.
But the truth is, women have different needs.
Many like things to be more sensual in order to feel an emotional connection with their partner.
Some of the men commented that they make it point to satisfy their partners needs under the covers.
More From Unfinished Success
It’s hard to walk in the shoes of the opposite sex.
But a question was asked to women about what they think is the hardest parts of being a man.
Here are their answers.
Women Reveal The Worst Things About Being A Man
Signs A Marriage Won’t Last
When going to a wedding, we wish for the couple to live a long, happy life together.
But sometimes, the writing is on the wall. Here are some stories from wedding guests where they knew the marriage was doomed before it began.
Warning Signs A Marriage Won’t Last
First Date Mistakes That Make Women Cringe
First dates can be tough, but some men make them harder by being, well, idiots.
Here are 10 things men do on first dates that guarantee there will not be a second date.
10 FIRST DATE BLUNDERS THAT MAKE WOMEN CRINGE
Things Women Do That Annoy Men
There aren’t many things that turn men off. But when you do one of the few things that do, it’s a deal-breaker.
Here are common things women do that men drive men away.
THINGS WOMEN DO THAT DRIVE MEN AWAY
When Life Gives You Lemons
Nothing in life always works out perfectly.
Many times we hit rough patches where everything goes wrong. Learn how to handle these situations and come out better on the other side.
This thread inspired this article.
Don Dulin is the founder and main author on Unfinished Success, a personal development website whose goal is to help you be the best you. By making small changes everyday to how you live life, you can live your best life. You can learn more about him here.