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It’s no secret that men and women are vastly different in the ways they think, feel, and act.
But sometimes those differences create points of tension.
Sure, we all know that relationships can be frustrating at times; however, understanding what bothers your partner may help you make small changes in order to strengthen your bond.
This article will outline 12 annoying habits that men say drive them nuts when it comes to their partners.
Keep reading if you want to explore exactly how everyday activities can cause trouble within a relationship.
1. Trying to Look Like a Celebrity
There is nothing more annoying to a man than a woman who doesn’t have enough self-respect to be her own person.
As a result, she tries to look and act like a famous person because of the attention they get.
Whether it’s expecting special treatment in a relationship or feeling entitled to certain lifestyle luxuries, a woman who exudes a sense of entitlement can be unattractive and off-putting to potential partners.
Men, much like women, seek genuine connections built on mutual respect and understanding.
3. Fake Eyelashes
Not sure when wearing fake eyelashes became a thing, but they are following most other trends.
Once it becomes mainstream, you have to keep one-upping things to stand out. It’s now gotten to the point where the eyelashes are so big, it’s a wonder the women wearing them can even keep their eyes open.
As one person said, “If she blinks fast enough she will take flight.”
4. Behaving Poorly
Common courtesy and good manners are a must have for most people when it comes to relationships.
For some reason however, some people think that bad manners are a turn on to men. Here is a news flash: they aren’t. At least to any man worth being with.
One person said, “Went to dinner with a few friends, one of them I always thought was kind of cute but OMG when I saw the way she talked to the waiter I lost all interest in her.”
Another person expanded on this sense of entitlement and behavior, “Dunno if most or only a few but I have seen girls who try to be tough by basically being rude and immature. Many guys do this as well – basically the whole alpha strong male behavior which usually is seen like just being a jerk by majority of people.”
5. Plastic Surgery
Most men agree that many women who get plastic surgery looked better before going under the knife.
Yet, many women insist they need to do this to look young and attractive.
One person said, “Reddit consensus loudly says: fake anything.”
Another person added, “The relatively recent lip injection trend is just bad. People with very thin lips doing it sparingly don’t look bad, but the majority of girls doing them either already have fuller lips naturally or overdo them, so it just looks bad.”
6. Acting Less Intelligent Than You Are
Not everyone is brilliant, but most people can handle having deep conversations with others about all sorts of topics.
The problem is when you are smart, but play dumb because you think it is attractive or will help you get noticed.
One person said, “I’ll never forget watching a good friend of mine just disappear into herself in high school because the guy she was dating was extremely dumb but thought he had all the answers. They were in classes together and if she scored better than him on tests he would freak out at her. She started failing on purpose. Thank God she got out of that and is doing really well.”
Another person added, “The guys that have a problem with that aren’t worth being with anyways. As a fairly smart guy, I find that dumb women get boring pretty quickly. Maybe that was cool way back when wives were mostly just decorative possessions, but nowadays it’s just lame.”
7. Talking Bad About Other Women
Many people commented on how some women have the need to talk negatively about other women in the room.
They may not even know the person or have anything in common, but there is a sense of insecurity that the woman needs to put down others to feel better about herself.
8. Being Attractive Without Substance
There may be no greater turn off than an attractive person who has no personality.
One person said, “Basing your entire personality and life around your appearance. It might be attractive in the short-term, but if you treat yourself like some kind of trophy you are just objectifying yourself. Especially when you think that is enough and have nothing else.“
Another stated, “You know my ex? Hair, makeup, everything had to be done up like she was getting ready for a date, when all she was doing was two minutes in the convenience store to get milk and eggs. I just shook my head and shut my mouth.”
Sticking with the face, another major turn off for most men is the variability in eyebrows.
It’s one thing to get them shaped and to keep them trimmed. But it’s another thing to shave them off and use a pencil to draw them back on.
10. Fake Voices That Some People Think Are Cute
I don’t know when the fake voice thing started, but the sooner it ends, the better.
There is no man that find this attractive, yet women love doing it.
One person said, “As a woman, these also make me want to vomit. Like, the only context I could see myself doing it in is for a satirical joke with friends, but never unironically.”
Another person shared this perspective about this voice being a trauma response, “I never knew it was a trauma response. I had a linguistics class last semester that I learned women were more likely to engage in that behavior. I assumed it had to do with feminine expectations in society or something.
I don’t think was abused in any way, I’ve just always felt trapped mentally and like I’ve never been able to actually crawl out of myself. It’s like the person I am is locked up, and has been for so long that I’m not sure what parts are me and what parts are just adjustments I made to be something else.”
11. Trying to Be an Influencer or Desperately Needing Online Attention
Getting pleasure in being seen and noticed is something that most guys are not interested in.
When a woman goes out of her way to post on social media and take endless selfies, it’s a giant red flag.
One person said, “Taking endless selfies. That nonstop need for an online dopamine hit and constant need for being liked is one of the worst qualities in a person.”
Another added, “I encourage all women and girls to stop doing this. I had a horrible habit of doing this in my 20s and it caused so many problems with my mental health. I stopped taking selfies and ‘living my life online’ and learned to discern reality from fantasy (online presence) and my mental health couldn’t be better. You don’t realize how bad it is until you’re looking at it through an outside perspective. And internet/social media addiction is real, it’s insane what it does to your mindset and everything.”
12. Playing Hard to Get or Not Stating Feelings Clearly
Playing hard to get or being upfront with people can be difficult, as you have to put yourself out there.
But if you can overcome the fear, you will end up having more success in the long run.
One person said briefly explained their own experience with this type of behavior. “I recently found out the man I’m desperately in love with is autistic, and since then all of my communication and mild flirting has been very direct and he seems to pick up on it and reciprocate it clearer now. It made me realize how much easier it is to just be direct and clear.”
Another person chimed in, “Unfortunately, even if a girl sent me an engraved invitation to anything romantic or sexual and we weren’t already dating, I’d assume that she was just being nice or something along those lines. Then, a few months later, it hits me like a ton of bricks and I realize that I blew it.”
Meanwhile, another person offered insight into why people might do this, “I think at some point everyone is like this. Being direct with your feelings makes you vulnerable, saying you like someone opens you up to be rejected. So people skirt around the borders, they drop subtle hints and take the less risky approach. It takes time for anyone to build confidence to put themselves out there, some people never.”
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