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Do you ever feel like life throws one challenge after another your way?
It can be easy to get overwhelmed, but it doesn’t have to be that way!
Everyone can use certain psychological tricks and tips to make their life easier.
In this article, we’ll explore creative approaches for tackling everyday stressors and arm you with the tools to meet any challenge head-on.
So don’t give up yet. Read on and see how great life can be when you know how to manipulate it!
#1. Don’t Ask ‘What Do You Want’
A common question that comes in in relationships is one person asking the other person what they want.
For example, you might be out to dinner and, while looking at the menu, ask, “What do you want.”
If you’ve ever done this, you know the typical response is, “I don’t know.”
Instead, try asking, “What don’t you want.” This will get you an answer that you can then start making progress on.
This also works if you don’t know what you want to do. If it’s a Friday night and you want to go out but aren’t sure where to start with places you don’t want to go.
It works like magic.
#2. Say Hello And Smile
One of the easiest ways to get ahead is to be nice.
So the next time you are out, make it a point to say hello to people and smile.
They will treat you nicer, and if you encounter them regularly, they will remember how nice you are and will be nice to you as well.
This could lead to more opportunities in life as well.
#3. Think About The Future
There are always things to do that we don’t want to do, at least at the moment.
We see a sink full of dishes but would rather veg out on the couch.
A simple trick is to ask your future self a question.
In this case, ask yourself what the future you in the morning would feel like if there were a sink full of dishes.
Would they mind? Or be annoyed because they have to get the kids ready for school, finish the project for work, and have a call at 10 am.
Knowing this could motivate you to finish it now and not worry about it later.
#4. Compliment People Behind Their Back
We all know people who gossip and talk meanly about people behind their backs.
Instead of doing this, do the opposite. Talk kindly about people behind their backs.
This trick is effective, especially at work.
When you speak nicely about people behind their backs to others, the people you are telling assume you are also saying nice things about them without their knowledge.
This comes off as you being a good person. As a result, you get to enjoy the benefits.
#5. Let Others Talk
Most people do not like awkward silence in a conversation.
But if you can learn to be OK with it, you will find the other person keeps talking.
Additionally, if someone is venting to you about an issue, don’t interrupt them.
Let them speak and simply nod.
To them, this signals you are genuinely listening, so they keep talking.
#6. Listening To Music
This trick is like the future you mentioned previously.
If you are in a bad mood, think about the music you would listen to if you were happier.
Then listen to that music now.
Hearing the music will help shift your brain into that mood instead of suffering through your current mood.
#7. Keep Conversations Short
We all run into people on the street and feel compelled to stop and converse.
The truth is, no one wants to get stuck in a long conversation, but no one knows how to keep it short.
That is until now.
Here is the trick one person shared.
“Me: Hey! How are you name? You look good!
Them: laugh Thank you, I’m good, how are you?
Me: I’m great, I’m on the way to wherever I am going to at the time and I tell them why too. So what are you doing here?
Them: Go into the same detail to tell me where they’re going and why
Me: Alright, well, I won’t keep you up any longer than I have, have a good day, name!”
This leaves people feeling good and removes the awkwardness of cutting a conversation short.
#8. I Need Your Help
One person shared it is hard to get people to do what is needed.
To get around this, they say, “I need your help.”
It works because they want to feel needed and like they are making a difference by helping when asked this way.
#9. Make A Big Ask
Another great trick is not asking for what you want, at least not initially.
Instead, you make a big ask, which you don’t want, and know you won’t get.
Then you ask for what you do want. Since it feels like a much smaller ask, the person usually will say yes.
One person shared their father was a pilot and talked to his wife about getting a plane. She said no, so he asked for a motorcycle, which she agreed to.
The catch is he never wanted a plane. He wanted a motorcycle all along.
So the next time you want something, make a big ask, then ask for what you really want.
#10. Don’t Apologize, Thank People
This trick was mentioned many times.
Instead of saying, “sorry for the delay”, say, “thanks for your patience”.
When you thank people instead of apologizing, it makes them feel better.
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Don Dulin is the founder and main author on Unfinished Success, a personal development website whose goal is to help you be the best you. By making small changes everyday to how you live life, you can live your best life. You can learn more about him here.