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We’re all perfectionists to some extent, but some of us are more so than others.
You are not the only one who has ever felt like you had to be perfect in order to be loved.
But here’s the thing: perfection doesn’t exist. You are whole just as you are right now, right here.
In this blog post, I’ll share the best affirmations for perfectionists. They’ll help you to stop being so hard on yourself and learn how to accept yourself as you are.
List of Positive Affirmations for Perfectionists
Affirmations for Overcoming Perfectionism
- My best is enough.
- I used to think perfection meant love, now I can love myself even at my worst.
- Having fun isn’t a reward you have to earn.
- I view everything I do as a potential learning opportunity.
- There’s nothing wrong with asking for help.
- I used to think how awful it was to hear criticism, now I know people are just expressing an opinion.
- I refuse to put myself down for any reason.
- I am confident. I am capable. I am poised. I am strong.
- No criticism, from myself or others, could ever detract from my inherent worth as a human being.
- I will not let perfectionism keep me from trying new things.
- I’m doing my best and that’s all I can ask of myself.
- I used to think 100% was not good enough, now I know I really skewed reality.
- I am more than the perceived quality of what I do.
- I used to think critical thoughts constantly, but now I know I can give myself credit for my efforts.
- It’s okay to say no and set boundaries.
- I used to think mistakes were total catastrophes, now I know it’s all part of being human.
- I don’t have to do it all.
- Flaws are not inadequacies.
- Perfectionism is not inherent to human nature; I recognize that I took on perfectionism at some point in my childhood.
- My creative projects cannot be perfect, because perfection is subjective and does not truly exist.
- Mistakes are growth opportunities.
- I have experienced perfectionism, but being a Perfectionist isn’t my identity.
- I value learning more than being right.
- I don’t have to be perfect to be powerful.
- I used to think I had to live by so many rules, but now I know I was far too rigid with myself.
- I accept others just as they are.
- I choose to enjoy the process, not just focus on the outcome.
- I don’t need to prove my worth to anyone, including myself.
- I can’t control everything and that’s okay because I have the resources to cope.
- Being better won’t make you feel better.
- Doing more work is not necessarily productive.
- Excellence is not the same as perfection.
- I am capable of anything I put my mind to.
- I am more than enough and exactly where I need to be right now.
- Perfection is unrealistic.
- I release the need for unrealistic standards.
- Good enough really is good enough.
- My best effort isn’t the same as perfection.
- I will not put unnecessary weight on my shoulders to do everything perfectly.
- I recognize that perfection is subjective, and thus unachievable.
- I recognize that constructive criticism is given as advice to improve my work, not as a comment on my personal worth.
- My mistakes make my creative projects unique.
- I used to think my system would help me be successful, now I know my system actually hindered my progress.
- I used to think my standards were just fine, now I know they were unrealistic and unreasonable.
- My perceived mistakes don’t make me unworthy in any way.
- I handle criticism with ease.
- I refuse to project my perfectionism onto others.
- I accept myself just as I am.
- I used to think I could be perfect all the time, but now I know I was fooling myself.
- Everyone needs to rest, including me.
- I used to think it would take forever to recover from what I saw as a failure, but now I know I don’t have to beat myself up over and over again.
- I’m more than my appearance, grades, salary, or any external marker of success.
- Whatever I create, it is good enough.
- I used to think I had to have it all together, but now I know I just need to be myself.
- I can’t control everything around me, but I can control myself and my reaction to what happens around me.
- Perfection doesn’t guarantee love.
- I am enough.
- I am doing my best, and my best is good enough.
- Today I will work on seeing only the positives. I will block out negative thinking.
- My well-being is more important than my perceived efficiency.
- Today will be what it is. I will be who I am. And there will be beauty in both.
- It’s healthy to relax and have fun.
- I love and accept myself.
- I will treat people’s opinions of my creative projects as opinions, not facts.
- My health is more important than my performance or accomplishments.
- There’s more than one “right” way to do something.
- I will not hold myself to unrealistic standards at work.
- Done is always better than perfect.
- I am exactly where I am supposed to be and I am doing exactly what I am supposed to be doing.
- I used to think admitting imperfection would devastate me, but now I see how doing that totally frees me.
- I used to think I was not loveable or acceptable unless I had it all together, now I know what it is to love and accept others and myself without having to have it all together.
- I used to think I had to be so hard on myself to get things done, but now I know I can live free of that pressure.
- I will not stay in places where I am not valued.
- I refuse to speak negatively about myself because it is beautiful simply for being someone that I am.
- I am thankful for all that I have.
- Today I will focus on what is possible.
- My worth isn’t based on my achievements.
- Slowing down helps me recharge and be thoughtful about my commitments and expectations.
- My opinion matters.
- I will give myself grace when I make a mistake.
- I allow myself to be imperfect.
- I don’t sweat the small stuff.
- Asking for help is a good thing.
- I congratulate myself for my accomplishments, rather than nitpicking every aspect of what I do.
- I used to think forgiveness was not something I deserve, but now I know I deserve it just like anyone else.
- I used to think about everything that went wrong, now I acknowledge everything that went right.
- Rather than berate myself for any perceived shortcomings, I honor myself for my efforts.
- I let go of the need for others’ approval.
- I recognize that most people are not as hard on me as I am on myself.
- I trust the process.
- I used to think I was fine, but now I know I was a tortured, scared soul.
- Even when my work doesn’t meet certain standards, I deserve to be compensated for my time and energy.
- I used to think nothing was good enough, but now I know how and when to say “good enough”.
- When things don’t go as planned, I will adjust my expectations.
- I will accept compliments from people on my work without pointing out my perceived flaws to them.
- I used to think everyone else should have my standards, but now I know there’s something to value in everyone’s way of doing things.
- I don’t have to be perfect for people to like, accept, or love me.
- I used to think I had to do everything perfectly the first time and every time, but now I know I can do things really well, but not always perfectly.
- I’m imperfect and I’m still enough.
- I used to think how terrible it would be to disappoint others, now I know I can live with it.
- I used to think showing my vulnerabilities would lead to great ridicule, now I know showing all sides of myself leads to greater connection and relatability.
- I recognize that part of what makes a work of art beautiful is its “imperfection”.
- Relationships need authentic connection, not perfection.
- I am worthy of love, dignity, happiness, and kindness, no matter what.
- I don’t have to do things perfectly.
- Everyone makes mistakes.
- I used to think my value was based on my achievements, but now I know my value is based on who I am, regardless of what I have or haven’t achieved.
- I have fun with my creative projects, rather than worry about doing them “perfectly”.
- I used to think I will only be remembered for my mistakes, now I know there’s a lot more to me than just my mistakes.
- I release the identity of being a Perfectionist.
- I used to think I was a failure at basically everything, now I know success comes in many forms.
- I won’t let my perfectionism stall my growth.
- Asking for help reflects strength and courage.
- I don’t worry about things I can’t control.
- I used to think in black and white, but now I know so much of life is lived in grey and many other amazing colors.
- I will not criticize others for not meeting my subjective standards.
- I used to think I had to sacrifice my time, my relationships, and my health to get something done perfectly, now I know it’s simply not worth it.
- I deserve to be recognized for the effort I put in, no matter the perceived results.
- I am worthy of all that life has to offer.
What is Perfectionism?
Perfectionism is a state of mind that focuses on all the things you need to do before you can feel good about yourself.
It is an escape from emotional pain and anxiety, but it also prevents us from doing what we love and achieving the things we want in life.
Perfectionists have a tendency to be self-critical, so they set high expectations for themselves and others around them.
They are obsessed with making sure everything is perfect at all times, which means they miss out on many opportunities because they are afraid of failure.
Perfectionists tend to get overwhelmed easily, which can lead to procrastination or burnout.
They may not even realize that they are perfectionists until they start experiencing some sort of stress-related symptoms like depression or anxiety.
To me, it is a self-destructive mindset that doesn’t allow us to relax or take risks—it’s just another way to avoid facing our fears and making decisions that might lead us down a different path than what was expected by others around us.
10 Tell-tale Signs That You Are a Perfectionist
Being a perfectionist is not always a good thing. In fact, it can be pretty destructive and detrimental to your quality of life. Here are some signs that you might be a perfectionist:
- You get anxious when you make mistakes
- You’re never satisfied with your work
- You’re extremely hard on yourself
- You feel like if you don’t do everything perfectly, then you’ve failed
- You feel like you need to be perfect in order to be worthy of love, approval, or respect from others (or even yourself)
- You’re afraid of making mistakes, so you don’t take risks
- You get angry when things don’t go your way or people don’t meet your expectations
- You have trouble delegating tasks to others because they won’t do them the way you would do them yourself
- You feel like others don’t understand what it takes for something to be perfect enough for your standards
- You tend to see your flaws more than your strengths.
How Can Affirmations Help Reduce Perfectionism?
When we think of affirmations, we usually think of the positive self-talk that is supposed to make us feel better about ourselves.
But affirmations can be used for more than just that purpose. It can help us to be more mindful of each day, be more present, and not keep trying to outdo everyone and everything.
They can also be used to help you recognize your inner voice and the negative thoughts you have about yourself, which can help reduce perfectionism.
To use affirmations in this way, start by writing down a list of all the things you’ve done wrong or that haven’t gone as planned.
Then, write an affirmation next to each entry on your list that allows you to accept what happened and move forward with life: “I made a mistake. It doesn’t matter.”
In addition to repeating your affirmation daily, it’s important that you believe in what the statement says about you.
If there’s any doubt in your mind about whether or not it is true, then just keep working at repeating it until those doubts disappear completely!
How to Channel Your Perfectionist Tendencies?
If you’re a perfectionist, it can be hard to let go of your need to do things right the first time.
It’s not easy to adapt to new surroundings or situations, and it’s even harder when you believe that you have to do everything perfectly.
But there’s no reason why you can’t channel your perfectionist tendencies into something positive!
Here are some ways to use your perfectionism to help you grow:
- Perfectionists tend to work harder than others—so use that as an opportunity to give yourself some extra credit when you do something well! It doesn’t have to be perfect, but if you take pride in what you’ve done and give yourself credit for it, then that feeling will carry over into future projects.
- Do what makes you happy. If someone asks for feedback on an idea you’ve come up with and they don’t like it, are they really going to change their mind just because you think they should? Probably not! So instead of worrying about what other people think of your ideas, focus on what makes you happy—and then share those ideas with others later if they seem relevant or interesting.
- Take breaks! Even if it’s just five minutes every hour or two, taking a break gives your brain time to process everything that’s happened so far and decide what needs more attention and what doesn’t. You’ll end up working faster because there won’t be so much information in your head at once, which means fewer mistakes and more room for creativity and innovation!
In Conclusion: Affirmations for Perfectionists
Affirmations for perfectionists can help you find the confidence and self-love you’ve been looking for.
Take a moment to think about what makes YOU feel good.
What kind of affirmations resonates with YOU? What do you want to hear in your head over and over again?
Don’t worry about making them perfect right away.
You’ll never get it right without practice.
Just start by saying whatever comes to mind—and then repeat it again tomorrow!
As you keep at it, remember that it’s OK if some days are harder than others; this is how growth happens.