You’re here. You’re alive. You’ve survived the worst thing that’s ever happened to you, and now you want to make sure it never happens again.
You can do it! You’re stronger than you know.
Remember: Your success is their karma.
But even though you’ve already made it through the worst of it, there’s still work to be done.
It’s going to take time and effort to rebuild yourself into a person who can love themselves—and be loved by others—again.
With the help of these affirmations for abuse survivors, I am sure you will heal and be stronger than before.
List of Affirmations for Abuse Survivors
Abuse comes in many forms. From childhood, drugs, physical, and even verbal abuse, no one deserves it.
But it’s also OK.
It’s not your fault, and it doesn’t mean that you’re defective or broken. It just means that you’ve been through something really hard.
And you are amazing despite all of that.
You are strong enough to get through this, and you have so many people who care about you, who will fight for you until their last breath if necessary.
No matter what happens next with your abuser, know that there is a bright future waiting for you on the other side of this darkness.
Take a look at the following list of affirmations for abuse victims and trauma survivors and find the ones that resonate with you, and own it!
I am accepting and compassionate towards myself and others.
I will defend and protect myself, no matter what.
I won’t let domestic abuse to ever ruin my life again.
I am honest with myself because I’ve been in difficult situations before.
My physical strength is greater than ever before.
I will remain empowered even in the face of antagonism.
No one deserves to treat me badly.
My worth as a human being is unconditional, and other people unconditionally like me.
No struggle is too hard for me.
I forgive everyone who has ever hurt me.
I refuse to live by society’s rules any longer.
I think positive thoughts about myself all day long.
I know, and I trust my truth.
I’m worthy of love just as I am.
I have compassion for all life forms, particularly those who are suffering.
I take joy in simple acts of kindness such as smiling at strangers.
I am a whole person. I complete myself.
I am free from judgmental attitudes toward other people.
I give thanks for the blessings given me.
I will not blame others for my problems. Instead, I’ll take responsibility for them and try to fix them.
No one can take away the power I have within me.
I am extremely successful in everything I do and say.
My feelings are valid.
I love myself unconditionally just as I am.
I am able to practice self-confidence.
I am not defined by what has happened to me. I’m in control of my own story.
I will accept myself just the way I am.
I work hard, but play harder.
I’m easy going and don’t mind making small talk.
I know my limits, and I don’t tolerate abusive situation.
I am a lovable person who deserves to be loved right.
I am the life source. I am the Light. Without me, there is nothing to feed on.
I won’t always be perfect, because perfection isn’t real. But I will be doing the best that I can.
I forgive myself for loving too much.
I love my body.
Every act of silence is a protection against psychological violence.
I have the right and responsibility to express my anger and remain loved.
If someone wants to cut off contact with me then let them do so freely.
I will help others.
I value human life.
I deserve genuine love.
I am flexible.
I deserve to be happy and healthy everyday.
I never give up; I keep going.
I believe in miracles, and I take care of my mental health seriously.
I give myself all the permission I need to do what I know is best.
I’m not a toxic person anymore because I have healed from the past.
I am patient and forgiving.
I am wise beyond my years.
I listen carefully to others when they share their ideas and experiences.
When I’m struggling with feelings of distrust, I will give myself space to process them.
My heart shines of the power to help me face any difficulty
I am strong and courageous.
I’m one of those survivors of abuse who choose to heal and be optimistic about the future.
I enjoy helping others.
I am worthy of undeserved compassion,
I choose to take initiative and initiate conversations.
Today I declare that I am enough.
I celebrate beauty, peace, serenity and love.
I have the power to move on from my abuser.
I put family first.
I take pleasure in listening to music.
I smile more often.
I forgive myself for giving the wrong people too many chances to hurt me.
I am in control of my happiness.
This is life or death and I choose life. Every time.
I am cloaked in confidence.
I thank God I made it this far.
Nothing will destroy me today.
The more I like myself the more others like themselves.
I am confident in my decision making abilities.
I deserve to express my feelings openly without feeling guilty about it afterward.
I am powerful and capable no matter what emotion I am feeling.
I deserve to feel healthy and vibrant.
I survived the abuse I faced, meaning that I have been empowered from the day I was born
I am healing slowly but surely.
I am putting myself first.
I am strong and stable.
I spend time with my friends and family.
I am a caring friend and neighbor to everyone in need.
I’m a loveable person.
Each second, each minute, each hour, each day, each month, each year, I am getting stronger.
I allow myself to heal.
I accept myself as I am.
I am a winner.
I don’t waste time feeling sorry for myself.
I am a good person.
I am spiritual.
I am grateful for what I have.
I can do it, leave my abuser.
I am grounded.
I am calm under pressure.
I have complete and unconditional worth as a person in this universe.
I can communicate my feelings to people who deserve to hear my voice.
I stop comparing myself to others and start appreciating what I have.
I am not alone in my struggles.
I am my own best friend. I am my own best advocate.
Self empowerment is infinite and bright within me.
I know where my true strengths lie.
I accept compliments graciously.
I know and trust my own mind.
Every action I take is from my empowered heart.
No matter how bad I messed up. I did not deserve to be abused.
My intuition is a helpful guide.
My inner wisdom guides me in making decisions.
I am willing and open to learning from other points of view.
I deserve to experience joy and laughter every day.
I am smart, talented, and beautiful.
I am a loveable person who deserves the care, affection, and respect of others.
I am beautiful and desirable in my own unique way.
I am an intelligent conversationalist.
My fear doesn’t define me.
I am happy within myself.
It’s time for me to stop waiting for a man to come along and rescue me like he did in the old days.
I respect other cultures and traditions.
I am generous with my time and energy.
I express appreciation for the little things.
I appreciate beauty.
I take responsibility for allowing people to take advantage of me.
Loneliness is infinitely better than any form of abuse.
My will is stronger than an abuser’s attempts to bully me.
I make my own luck.
I stay away from negative self-talk.
I keep learning new things.
I am in charge of how I feel.
I make decisions wisely and based on reality.
I don’t care if I have to work hard to maintain my relationships with friends and family.
I laugh often and find value in humor.
I trust and rely upon my excellent sense of judgement in everything I do.
I deserve so much more than to be an emotional punching bag.
Each time I don’t respond or set a boundary, I remind myself of what I am worth.
I am present in each moment.
I am worthy because my past, abusive relationship doesn’t define me.
I know how to treat others as I would want to be treated.
I can trust myself completely as my life unfolds to create my own unique story.
I am capable of healing and reaching my greatest dreams.
I am open to new opportunities because I have positive feelings to people.
I may be a victim of abuse, but I have the courage and strength to survive.
I feel connected to everything that surrounds me.
I am capable of dealing constructively with conflict situations.
I’m grateful for all the people who support me no matter how difficult things get.
I use humor every chance I get.
I have a sense of humor.
I am stronger than empty threats.
Survivors of abuse like myself are the most powerful people in this world.
My flaws don’t make me unloveable or deserving of violence.
I let go and surrender.
I do not sweat the small stuff.
I have the courage to face any challenge in life.
I believe in being kind to other living beings regardless of how close or far apart they may be.
Making life changes is difficult. It won’t be easy, but I can do this.
I have faith that things will turn out fine.
I am an extremely well liked and pleasing person.
I find a way to make it work even when everything seems hopeless.
I forgive myself for working too hard on a relationship that only hurt me.
I trust my own reality. I know and trust what I experienced and felt. I validate myself.
Staying sane is more important than being validated by an abuser.
I can overcome hardships in my life.
I know that recovery is neither linear nor time-bound. I go at my own pace.
My mental health is my number one priority.
I have good relationships with people of all ages.
I have faith in humanity.
No one can take my strength from me
I release my anger, not my victim.
I use humor to lighten up tense or stressful situations.
I am stronger than any tough times.
I am not afraid of failure.
I refuse to allow bad situations to control me anymore.
I will get enough sleep every night.
If I can overcome this, I can overcome anything.
I accept responsibility for my words and deeds.
I made the right decision.
I am not broken.
I seek out friendships.
I see possibilities where others only see problems.
I am strong and I am able to control my emotions.
There is nothing wrong with how I look, dress, act or think.
I will learn to laugh again because I’ve survived a difficult experience in my life.
My success is their karma.
They don’t love or care about me but instead, they care about fulfilling their own needs.
I am stronger than all of the challenges life throws at me
I focus on the good in my life.
It was not me. It was them.
I used to be an abused person, but I choose to heal from it.
I am a happy, healthy, wholesome, beautiful, positive, prosperous person.
I am willing to share my knowledge and skills with others as much as they want.
I respect myself, I respect all other persons, and all other people respect me.
I am humble.
I choose hope instead of despair.
I work hard but never burn out.
I do not need to keep seeking validations from other people.
I pay attention to toxic behaviors and distance myself from that person.
I have firm boundaries and the strength to stick to them.
I live my life with confidence.
When I feel stressed, I breathe deeply.
I have faith in the future.
My strength is in my softness.
My opinions are my own.
I believe we can change our world.
I have self-respect because I repel abusive people.
I won’t let any toxic people ruin my life again.
There will always be good days ahead.
My life is worth more than empty promises.
I am content with where I am in life.
I deserve to set and maintain boundaries.
I see the best in people.
I am willing to admit mistakes and move on.
I am the best judge of what is best for me, and I trust my judgement completely.
I ask questions to understand the other person better.
I allow others to be themselves without judging.
I can overcome anything.
I nurture my soul.
I have an open heart and mind.
I am happy because there really isn’t anyone else on this planet that makes me happier than myself.
I choose to follow my instincts rather than listening to someone else’s advice.
I enjoy my time with people because I’m a decent person.
I focus on what matters most.
The only person responsible for my happiness is me.
I forgive myself for past mistakes.
Empowerment is accessible to me.
I choose to look forward rather than backwards.
I won’t let my past child abuse to ever affect my future.
Other people have the right to say No to me and I know that we still love and care for each other.
I embrace all aspects of myself, including my own healing journey.
I am able to step back and let go of controlling situations.
I always consider the effect of my actions on other people.
I can overcome any hardship in my life.
I listen well to understand another person.
I pay attention to my thoughts and guide them in the right direction.
Physical abuse is something that I’ll never get again because now I know what to look for in a partner.
I deserve to be in a happy relationship.
I don’t need to compare my relationship with other people because it will never be perfect.
I am kind to myself.
I don’t hate anyone.
When times are difficult, I know I have people I can turn to for support.
I am a responsible person.
The blame for abuse lies with my abuser, not with me.
I can say No to other people and know I remain loved and cared for.
I will not waste any energy thinking negatively about myself.
I let go of grudges and unforgiveness.
Abuse survivors are the strongest people.
I am healthy and strong physically.
I am free to express my emotions.
From now on, happiness is my constant state of mind.
I can deal effectively with change.
The strength I had to survive is still with me today.
I can make it because I am an awesome person.
Everything has meaning and purpose in this universe.
I am making self-care a priority.
I accept what happens in each moment as it comes.
I am calm and peaceful both internally and externally.
I don’t have to forgive or forget. That doesn’t make me a bad person.
It wasn’t in my head; they just made it seem that way.
Even during challenging times, I remain confident about the outcome.
I practice meditation whenever possible.
When I can’t do my best, I will give myself grace.
Good things are happening to me right now.
I care about and love myself.
I am intelligent, I am capable, and I am competent.
I am relaxed.
All my past experiences and emotional abuse don’t predict what’s going to happen tomorrow.
This is my body, and I’m going to take care of it the best I can.
I am a unique and priceless person, coming from a unique and perfect pattern within me.
I have found peace within myself.
I am on my healing journey and I will achieve my greatest goals.
I am optimistic.
I am blessed because I’ve escaped a death situation.
I am responsible for my actions.
I am worthy of love attention.
I choose joy over sorrow.
I am tolerant of differences.
I have survived everything in my past and I can survive everything in my future.
I appreciate the uniqueness of each individual’s spiritual path.
All of my accomplishments are because I am a fully functioning, capable, competent human being.
I am capable of manifesting confidence.
I will smile at least once a day regardless of whether or not I feel like it.
Everyday I am growing stronger.
Empowerment is something that sings through my every action.
I am fully competent and capable in everything that I decide to do.
Strength flows through me constantly.
I am putting the past well and truly behind me to focus on the present and future.
I am not what is happening to me.
I am aware of my emotions and manage myself accordingly.
I am getting stronger everyday.
I choose gratitude rather than resentment.
I will find ways to enjoy life more because I’ve let go of my abusive partner.
I am a self determined person, and I allow others the same right.
I express gratitude.
I make sure my mind is clear before I speak.
I am able to make decisions on my own.
I am not a failure. I only made a mistake.
I treat myself kindly.
I am respected and well-liked by all people that I know.
Love heals everything.
I have a right to be free from abuse. Every human being has that right and I do, too.
Life is full of magic.
I am aware of the laws regarding personal safety in public places.
My home should be a haven of peace, warmth, and safety.
I won’t tolerate any form of abuse in my future relationships.
I acknowledge my limitations.
My voice is one of strength and power.
I can do amazing things with my life.
I accept and acknowledge unconditionally my individuality and unique personality.
I am comfortable telling jokes.
I choose forgiveness instead of revenge.
Every day I wake up with new strength.
I do not judge my peers or those younger/older than me too harshly.
I can survive anything. And I will thrive.
I give myself grace when I cannot do my best.
They don’t miss me as a person but instead, they miss controlling and mistreating me.
I know deep down inside that I’ve been loved.
How Do You Overcome Abuse?
If we’re being honest with ourselves, it’s a fact of life that we will encounter abuse in one form or another.
Abuse comes from all directions—abusers can be our family members, friends, and even strangers on the street.
But let’s face it: if you’ve been abused before and are reading this right now, then chances are you’ve been through some pretty rough stuff, and you want to take back control now.
And if that’s true, then I want to tell you something important: it’s not your fault and you definitely can bounce back!
I am not an expert, but I do have a few suggestions on how to take the first steps:
Tell someone you trust about what happened.
You may feel like you’re betraying the person who hurt you by telling someone else, but they don’t deserve to keep hurting others—and neither do you!
Get help from a trained professional.
If you’ve been abused, there’s no shame in seeking support from someone who can help guide your healing process.
They can be a great source of hope for the future!
Take care of yourself physically and mentally.
Make sure that you’re eating healthy foods and getting enough sleep so that your body can heal itself from the inside out! Also make sure that you’re giving yourself time for doing things that make YOU happy, even if it’s just watching an episode of your favorite TV show or reading a book for fun!
Use positive affirmations.
Positive self talk has been proven to help people improve their moods and overcome difficulties in their lives.
There are many different articles on our blog that gives you a guide on how you can do it, so be sure to browse around.
What Do You Say to Someone Recovering From Abuse?
When you’re trying to support a loved one who’s recovering from abuse, it can be hard to know what to say.
First off, remember that you don’t have to say anything. Sometimes just being there is enough.
If you do want to talk, try asking them how they’re doing and listening carefully to their answer.
If they seem like they want to talk more, ask open-ended questions like “What was that like?” or “How did it make you feel?”
Let them lead the conversation as much as possible.
You might also want to consider including some resources in your conversations with your loved one:
local counseling centers
hotlines for domestic violence survivors
books or articles about healing from trauma
support groups for those who have gone through similar experiences
Over to you
You have been through the fire, but you have emerged as a phoenix, ready to fly high and bright in the world.
The wounds may still hurt, but they will heal in time.
The scars will fade, but they will make way for new skin that is resilient and beautiful.
I trust in you!